Jul 31, 2023
Extreme parenting, characterized by excessively strict or permissive behavior, can have a profound impact on our self-esteem and ability to set boundaries as adults. When parents are overly critical, demanding, or perfectionistic, it often leads to feelings of inadequacy and low self-worth in their children. Constant criticism and unrealistic expectations can erode a child's self-esteem, making them believe they are never good enough. As a result, they may grow up with a deep-seated fear of failure and an overwhelming need for validation. external This can make it incredibly challenging for them to set healthy boundaries as adults, as they constantly seek approval and fear disappointing others.
On the other hand, permissive parenting, characterized by a lack of structure, discipline, and boundaries, can also harm self-esteem and boundary-setting. When parents fail to establish appropriate limits and consequences, children may struggle to develop a sense of responsibility and self-discipline. They may grow up with a blurred understanding of their own needs and limits, making it difficult to assert themselves or say no. This can lead to a pattern of people-pleasing behavior, where they prioritize others' needs over their own, even at the expense of their own well-being.
Breaking free from the impact of extreme parenting requires a conscious effort to rebuild self-esteem and learn healthy boundary-setting skills. It involves recognizing and challenging the negative beliefs instilled in childhood, seeking therapy or support to heal past wounds, and practicing self-compassion and self-care. With time and effort, developing a stronger sense of self-worth and cultivating the ability to set firm, healthy boundaries in our adult relationships is possible.
In this episode, Lisa A. Romano the Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Life Coach, helps us understand how growing up in a dysfunctional home can impede our ability to set healthy boundaries as adults, leading to codependency in relationships.
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